The Myth that Dreams Can Come True – What are your Dreams?
We are taught from a really young age that dreams can’t come true. Oh, sure, every adult told us when we were young that ‘Dreams can come True!’ and ‘You can be anything you want to be’ and ’shoot for the stars’. But we were told that by adults who were in jobs that they didn’t like, who had relationships that they weren’t happy in, who had lackluster lives and had not actually achieved their own dreams.
The thing is that kids don’t learn what they are told. They learn what they see and experience both in and in between the lines. They aren’t stupid. The see that these people telling them this have an incongruous life situation. We learned at a really young age to HAVE dreams but to relegate them to ‘the place of dreams’ – this place that exists just outside of our reach, always and forever.
I give an exercise as part of True Path Healing that often leaves people stumped. I ask them to write down, in great detail what they want for themselves in a particular aspect of life, 10 years down the road, if tomorrow, NO barriers existed. If they had all the time, money and energy they needed – in ten years, where would they dream that they would be in that aspect of their life? To write it in embarrassing details… all the tiny things that they envision when they think about those dreams.
What I have found is that most people have a natural aversion to that exercise. Something always gets in the way, there is not enough time to do it, and more excuses that are actually quite creative. Those excuses are our mind’s way of diverting us. To see that we have dreams that seem so unattainable is scary, painful and sometimes discouraging because of our belief that we cannot really have them.
When a client actually does the exercise, without fail, their life starts to change around them and inevitably, in ways that make their dream more possible. We CAN have our dreams if we only have the courage to face them. I invite you to try that exercise and let me know how it goes for you.
- Open a new document on your computer or start a fresh piece of paper – whichever works for you
- At the top, write a heading for an aspect of your life – relationship, family, money, career, spirituality etc
- Close your eyes and think – if anything were possible when you woke up tomorrow moring… if you had anything you needed or wanted… your education, money, time, energy – where would you want to be in 10 years in that aspect of your life? What were your dreams as a child? What are your WILDEST fantasies about that aspect of your life? Dont be ‘realistic’, don’t think about what it would take to get there… just IMAGINE… FANTASIZE.
- Write it down in every tiny details… in your dream home, what color would the walls be, what rooms would it have, what would the outside look like, where would it be? In your dream relationship, what will they look like, how will they touch you, what will they enjoy doing, how will you interact and what will your roles be?
- The most important step : tuck it away somewhere safe. Dont look at it for at least a month. Then pull it out and allow the pure excitement of reading such a wonderful thing to wash over you. Tuck it away and pull it out periodically to allow yourself to be excited over what’s written. That’s all. That’s all you have to do.
